And then she said, "Don't Push."

Wednesday, May 29, 2019

Why You May Not Need to Push So Hard During Birth

I was recently explaining to a lady on an airplane about Fetal Ejection Reflex (also known as FER). She had asked me what the most fascinating thing about being a doula is and I told her "being able to watch the human body at work." It truly is fascinating to watch everything play out from head to toe, headspace to physical environment to partner support and the undeniable influence of a broken medical system; it's all just fascinating (and sometimes frustrating).
This conversation led to us talking about the fascinating things that the body can do that most people don't know. The problem with this is that out of all of the people who don't know about FER, so many of them will be directly impact (birthing parent) by this lack of understanding & knowledge. To add salt to the wound, many more will be impacted in a secondary type of way (non-birthing parent) so it's a benefit for people to know what this is. When birthing parents experience ongoing pain or feel insecure about how they're healing after a birth, it can certainly cause consequences in any romantic relationships. 

When I said to her, "oh and another favorite of mine is Fetal Ejection Reflex!" She says, "never heard of it." I wasn't surprised actually. Rather, it just makes me so sad to meet another woman who had given birth and wasn't fully informed of what their body was capable if left undisturbed and appropriately supported.

So, What is it?

This is the idea that your body will actually eject your baby for you. It happens because of the surge of adrenaline and hormones you get at the end of labor. This hormone spike causes your contractions to actually do the work for you with minimal help from you. They are irresistible contractions that are three times more progressive than you straining and pushing with all your might... or that is what’s can happen and doesn’t mean this will be everyone’s story. Of course, it depends on everything leading up to pushing which is why it’s a good idea to take a childbirth education class and hire a doula

You will get to a point where bearing down relieves pressure, but as far as working so so hard and exhausting and killing yourself with pushing, when approaching the pushing stage with a FER mindset, you would just continue to cope with contractions and know your body will push the baby out. I have actually seen a few mothers who have birthed with this mindset and they had minimal tearing. One even required only three stitches.  So think about it, in those panda and kitten and giraffe (yes, I'm looking at you April the Giraffe) births that you've no doubt seen on Facebook, they just let their babies come out. Humans are the only animals that interfere with the birthing process. Sometimes with good reason and absolutely needed, but most of the time not. 

Makes me think about hands and knees being my personal go-to. I believe so much in the power of really tuning in to our animalistic side in birth. I first learned of FER when I began to fall in love with Dr. Michel Odent. He speaks about an undisturbed birth and how women's bodies will physically take over to expel (gently) the baby if all conditions are right.

Listen to your body... don't push.

I was at a birth with midwives once and the birthing mom said she was getting urges to bear down. The midwife looked at her and said "Let your body do the work," and then she said, "Don't push." The mom asked what she meant and the midwife told her that her body would do all the work and that if she just embraced the movement her body needed, she wouldn't have to push very hard. I knew immediately what this midwife was doing. I remember reading a piece by Odent on how to support mother's who are "embracing those movements" and I began to help her by refocusing her attention to riding the contraction rather than focusing on the urge to push. Their baby slipped right out with minimal pushes. It was incredible.

The bottom line on FER

Know your options. You have a choice of how you are supported in the final stages of pushing. It can look like anything from step-by-step guided pushing to no verbal guidance at all. Sometimes, birthing people want no talking at all during this stage and that's 100% doable if that sounds pleasant to you. When you're choosing your birth preferences or thinking about how to intentionally choose your birth team, this is something to consider. 

When I meet women with traumatic birth stories, I always wonder what their births might have been like if they were informed about their choices and educated on things exactly like FER and the proper way of pushing like in The TBH Approach. How can we rewrite your narrative? How can we change your story starting now?

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Period like a Queen

Friday, May 24, 2019

Period like a Queen 

My menstrual cycle wasn't something I was always so in tune with. It wasn't something I had extensive understanding about and it certainly wasn't always a casual topic of conversation for me at networking events and Facebook lives. No, actually, my period was something that I wished away for so long and you know what? It worked! I didn't get my period until I was just shy of 18 years old. While other girls were lying about Aunt Flo showing up and boasting that they had to change their tampons, I was busy mumbling under my breath "please don't let my period come anytime soon."

Bleeding every month for 7 days isn't ideal for a gal who loves to be naked or at least wear as little clothing as possible at all times. I am a summer child. The beach is my happy place. Naked is my preferred state of being and just the idea of a period seemed disruptive. Of course, I knew I need "it" to get pregnant so when the time came for me to procreate, I was happy to oblige and pay the monthly price. But, until then, I was all set with a prepubescent body if it meant no period.

Finally, on Halloween night 2008, sitting at a high school basketball game killing time before the haunted house, I became a woman. Just like that. One minute it wasn't there, the next minute it was. I didn't feel any different--other than a little wet down there--but this was the moment, right? All the sudden, I was this mature, able to get pregnant, must be extra careful when you're having sex individual, but I still just felt like myself. I had never even had sex at this point, so I gathered that must be why it didn't feel any different.

Fast forward an entire decade. Now, I free-bleed using Thinx Underwear, manage the menstrual sensations with CBD, and support my vaginal pH health with Healthy HooHoo. Throughout the month, I am mindful of my diet as to support my hormonal shifts of my cycle (yes, your cycle is the entire month, not just the days you're bleeding). I also recognize and respect the messages my body sends me like "I need rest, take a light week," or "I need to move, go to yoga." I even have times of the month when I am more creative or more introspective.

5 Tips to Managing Your Period like Royalty 
  1. Be Mindful - Be mindful of the messages your body is sending you. Spend some time loving on yourself. Your hormones can cause some really skewed thoughts so do something lovely and relaxing for yourself. Pay attention to when your body is signaling the need for more rest. Then, honor that request. Be intentional with your diet as to support the hormonal and physical shifts happening in your body. Learn what your body is communicating and track the patterns so you can begin to predict what your body will need in comparison to where you're at in your cycle. Listen to the cues your body send to you--you know your body best, respect that relationship. Our two favorite period resources for learning to listen to your body are Rhythm and Root and Elizabeth Raybould Wellness
  2. Use Natural Products - It's 2019 and you can manage your period a number of different ways--tampons, pads, discs, sponges, a cup, thinx ..literally whatever tickles your fancy. Personally, I don't think it matters how you manage your period rather than what you're using to do so. I'm talking about using certified organic brands like Lola for Organic tampons (and pads!), Cora for Organic pads (and tampons!), Mahina for a medical grade silicone menstrual cup, and Thinx for stylish, not embarrassing period underwear. If you're not sure where to start, The Bloomi, has an incredible ban list of items that are just not suitable for your ladybits. I mentioned it was 2019 right? Well, that also means there's absolutely no reason that you should not be using clean period products. Of course, you certainly have the choice, but the risks are very clear. If you have questions about the risks of traditional period care products, book a 30-minute consultation here
  3. Explore CBD - I have two favorite brands of CBD. Elmore Mountain Therapeutics CBD (EMT CBD) and Rosebud CBD. I particularly love EMT for my period because they have these amazing CBD balms. I literally calm them my "calm balms"--one is regular and one is icy cold. I use these balms for so much--sunburns, sore muscles, headaches (on temples), back aches, and stomach aches. For my period, though, I would not be able to live without their Medi-Cool CBD balm. It's like a natural Icy Hot plus CBD--does it get any better? I also use EMT CBD tincture everyday for general "maintenance."  I use Rosebud 700mg mixed with 100% pure vitamin E oil on my face when I have breakouts and it works lovely. Rosebud has a wonderful all-purpose salve that I am dying to try, but haven't yet! 
  4. Drink Lots of Water - This is kinda in the same category as be mindful, but I felt like it was so important that it deserved it's own number. S.t.a.y H.y.d.r.a.t.e.d. That's just the bottom line. Stay hydrated enough that your urine is clear or nearly clear. That can be challenging on your menstrual cycle and if you find that increasing your water intake is not enough, try revisiting your diet. 
  5. Support Your Vagina - Your vagina (and ovaries + uterus) is doing alot of changing and shifting during this time. You want to make sure you are supporting your genitals with safe products. One place that alot of menstruating people go wrong is trying to clean their vagina. It's true that your period can make your downstairs smell funky, but you should be aware of what you're using to manage this very common side effect of having a period. I personally love the pH balanced personal hygiene wipes by Healthy Hoo Hoo. They are small and compact so I carry them in my backpack, in my purse, in my back pocket, in my clutch, and once in the back pocket of my LuLu's! They don't disrupt your natural microbiome and they are made by women. They're obviously all-natural. Healthy Hoo Hoo also has feminine wash if wipes aren't your jam! Another place people often introduce harmful chemicals that can mess up your vaginal PH is with personal lubricants. When thinking about clean lubes, we recommend Coconu (this is my personal fave!) and GoodCleanLove (I also love!). Knowing what is in each of your lubricants is important and this is a great time to revisit the ban list from The Bloomi.

I am a firm believer that your period should not be painful and certainly not so painful that it is debilitating. I truly, deep down in my core, don't think that our bodies were designed that way. There's no way that women were meant to be "out of commission" once a month just for the sake of reproduction, I ain't buying it. Your menstrual cycle is one big continuous loop of feedback from your body throughout the month, every month. If we can channel our inner goddess and learn to be mindful of the messages our bodies are sending us, I know we can change the way women menstruate. Sometimes it's the simplest shifts that make the biggest impact. I wanted to share with you what worked for me in hopes that it can work for you, too. Or at the very least, get your wheels turning so you can find what works for you.

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When you're ready to take control of your period, we'll be waiting. When you decide you want to period like a queen, pull a chair up. Our table always has a seat for you. Welcome home. 

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We've got your back! Chatting chiropractic care with Dr. Lizzie Sobel!

Wednesday, May 22, 2019

From Conception to Postpartum - Keeping You in Alignment
(This is also a podcast episode on The Tranquility Tribe if you prefer, listen here.)

Hey Tranquility Tribe! This week, we’re getting into all things chiropractic with Dr. Lizzie Sobel, a low force, gentle chiropractic based in Massachusetts who has been practicing since 2012. We know the idea of going to a chiropractor can send shivers up the spine for some of y’all, but Lizzie is here to settle all your fears and misconceptions and get you thinking about how chiropractic care could be an essential part of your pregnancy, postpartum, or even your newborn’s life!

Lizzie had her first experience with chiropractic care when she was 12 years old and experiencing daily headaches and back pain. After being referred to a chiropractor, she quickly became a believer in how helpful holistic approaches to health can be. Lizzie knows there can be fear and hesitation when it comes to the chiropractor, but she insists that it’s incredibly safe, with the same level of risk as massage or physical therapy! She personally practices a very low-force style of adjusting - no cracks or pops here!

In terms of pregnancy, Lizzie has practiced chiropractic on people from right after conception to the day of delivery - seriously! Because these adjustments are gentle and specific, they can often be the most physically comfortable part of a pregnant person’s week! The sacroiliac joints in the pelvis are the number one area of discomfort that she sees in her pregnant patients, but she sees and treats pain for these people anywhere from head to toe. Pain can pop up for the first time during pregnancy or previous pain can be exacerbated during it - either way, a chiropractor could help. Our bodies are constantly in sympathetic nervous system overload, causing us tons of stress, and chiropractic care can bring out the parasympathetic system and relax you. 

Chiropractic is all about getting things into alignment, and proper alignment can help with everything from a smoother labor process to postpartum healing. Bio-mechanically and physically, chiropractic care can help the pelvis be balanced and relaxed and so your body can open and adapt to labor as well as possible. The uterus connects to so many ligaments in the pelvis, and having those relaxed and aligned can play a super helpful role in preparing for labor. Lizzie sees a lot of postpartum patients with upper back and neck pain as they’re getting used to all the bending over that comes as part of life with a newborn - diapering, changing, breastfeeding, even just lifting a baby. Logistically, it may be challenging to come in to an office during the hecticness that can be postpartum life, but Lizzie suggests trying to carve out your hour at the chiropractor as necessary self-care. 

Besides pregnant and postpartum women, Lizzie also treats newborns and babies - yup, you heard that right! Lizzie insists that adjustments for adults look completely different for those done on infants - if you were to close your eyes and press the pad of one of your fingers over your closed eyeball, that’s the extent of the amount of pressure she applies! Chiropractic care for babies can be looked at as a “welcome to earth” alignment. As Hehe puts it, imagine you’re a tiny human in a huge house, but as you grow, your house doesn’t and everything gets smaller and smaller. By the time it’s all said and done, you’re cramped and forced to leave through the teeniest hallway where it takes hours to squeeze yourself out - after all of that, wouldn’t you want some alignment help? As Lizzie says, infant chiropractic care is truly preventative care, getting baby off to the best start both biologically and physically.

Many of Lizzie’s newborn patients come in after a really long or really short birth, or maybe a birth from a funky position or even via surgery or assist. Others come in because of nursing issues or a head preference side that may be causing flattening or asymmetry on the head. Regardless, it’s so helpful to catch and address issues early on to free baby’s nervous system from any stress big or small.

If you’re interested in reaching out to Lizzie and diving more into the world of chiropractic care for yourself or your baby, you can find everything you need to know at

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6 Reasons for Miscarriage

Wednesday, May 15, 2019

6 Reasons You Might Experience Miscarriage

I was recently asked my views on miscarriage and the fact that it is quite taboo. But, why? 1 in 4 women will experience a miscarriage at some point in their reproductive journey and 1 in 8 women will face challenges of some sort when trying to conceive. If it’s so common, why are we so afraid to talk about it? I have a few theories like death in general is usually an uncomfortable. Death of a child is really uncomfortable. Also, just because it’s common, doesn’t mean you won’t come across people who have never experienced it. For those people, it can be very uncomfortable because they may not know what to do or say to be supportive. Miscarriages happen and we need to talk about them. Here's why.

I think this is the ultimate reason that people don’t venture into the discussion of miscarriage because they are uneducated on it. When asked, many adults can not tell you an actual reason for miscarriage. People have no clue what causes infertility issues, miscarriage, or even stillbirth. If we don’t understand the problem, how can we properly support someone going through it? If we don’t know the basis of what’s happening, how can you be helpful? You can’t..or at least, it’s really really hard.

The first thing to understand are the type of infertility challenges that couples can face. Primary Infertility refers to infertility challenges while trying for a first child. Secondary Infertility refers to couples who are struggling to conceive, but already have a child or children. Couples who have adopted then struggle to conceive are considered to be in the Secondary Infertility camp. There’s also Female-Factor Infertility and Male-Factor Infertility. Finally, you have sub-categories like age-related infertility, recurrent pregnancy loss, situational infertility, and unexplained infertility.

Let’s break it down, so you know what the most common causes of pregnancy loss are:
Genetic Abnormalities account for upwards of 70% of miscarriages. This means that the genetic wiring of the embryo was not sustainable. It’s a very primal example of survival of the fittest. Embryos that have strong genetics will be more likely to survive and become a viable pregnancy. Some genetic abnormalities will be compatible with life like Trisomy 21 (Down Syndrome) and some will not.

Hormone Imbalances can be a huge contributor to infertility issues. Your body’s “hormonal puzzle” must line up just right to be in the perfect state to conceive and for that embryo to develop into a healthy pregnancy. There are numerous hormone imbalances that can impact fertility. Speak with your healthcare provider about lab tests that will give you insight to your adrenals and reproductive hormones.

Anatomical Abnormalities/Structural Abnormalities interfere with fertility if the shape of your uterus is preventing implantation or a fallopian tube is blocked. It may also be growths like fibroids or septums that prevent a healthy pregnancy.

Blood Incompatibility between the birth parent and baby can cause issues, too. There is something called Rh Factor and you can be Rh+ or Rh-. If the gestational parent is Rh- and the partner is Rh+, then there’s a chance that the baby is Rh+, too. This is dangerous as the birthing parents’ antibodies can cross the placenta and be harmful to the baby.

Advanced Maternal Age impacts infertility because as women age, their eggs experience chromosomal changes and this can lead to genetic mutations or birth defects. “AMA” is defined as any pregnancy of a person who is over 35 years old, but today, 15% of birthing people are over 35 years old. The concern is an increased risk of Trisomy 21, but at age 35, the risk is only 1 in 240. At age 40, it jumps up to 1 in 53.

Maladaptive Immune Response can also be the cause of infertility challenges. When an egg and a sperm get together, your body will recognize this mass of cells as foreign (duh!), but the natural process of pregnancy is for your body to soon realize that while it’s foreign, it’s also supposed to be there. Sometimes, your body doesn’t realize it and will always attack the embryo, preventing pregnancy. There are also a few inherited blood-clotting disorders that may cause problems when trying to conceive.

Miscarriage and infertility challenges impact millions of humans everyday. Women, and men, walk around with the heaviness that accompanies the deep desire to be a parent and the inability to conceive. There is power in numbers and this population of people is only growing as the days go by. I encourage you to share your story with others. If we don’t give people the safe spaces to learn about these hard places in life, how will we, as a society, get to a place where we are properly supporting those walking this path of pain and despair?

Remember, the reason that a miscarriage occurred is none of your business if it’s not shared with you first (also they may not know-- and you don’t want to be the asshole to dig that knife just a bit deeper). You should never ask someone their cause of infertility. Keep in mind that talking about a miscarriage experience is not the same as asking for advice.

Final Words from HeHe: so many women who have experienced miscarriage share that they wished someone would just ask about it. Many times, you can’t do anything to make the pain (physical and emotional) go away and words won’t fix it either. Sometimes, simply listening and being is the most supportive thing you can offer someone. Need help in setting boundaries if you have experienced a miscarriage? Or looking for support if you are helping for someone coping with loss? HeHe has laid out how to set boundaries and educate others on how to approach people who are hurting and don't know what to say.

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Tummy Time for Your Newborn

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

Tummy Time for Your Newborn 

What and why?

As your baby moves and turns their neck, talk to them, sing to them, and give them praise. The goal is to keep your baby engaged and help them enjoy this time together with you. Your baby will attempt to lift their head which is exactly what we want, but be aware that babies are top heavy. This means your baby may roll to one side or the other and the weight of their head causes them to tumble over. This movement of your baby learning to hold and control their head movement prepares your baby for future milestones like rolling over, sitting up, and crawling. Making sure they have strong core and trunk muscles will help support their future physical advancements like walking and running.
When children do not get enough tummy time, we can sometimes see issues with their gait or when they run due to lack of muscle tone or having never engaged those specific muscles before. We also see things like flathead as a result of spending too much time laying in their backs. If your child has flat head, begun to have them spend time in their tummies as well as consider seeing a pediatric chiropractor.

You can do tummy time and skin-to-skin at the same time by removing your shirt and your child's clothes (leave baby in a diaper) and laying baby, belly button down, on your chest. This can be done in the couch or the floor. Do not no it at a time that you are very tired and risk falling asleep with your baby on your chest.

Tummy time also helps your child master head control and encourages them to reach for toys that are in front of them (around 6 months old). For some babies, tummy time can be great relief for gas. Eventually, around 8 months old, you will notice your baby crossing their midline (imagine a line straight down their body, in line with their spine, through their head and out their tailbone) to swat, reach, and grab things! Fun milestones ahead!

When and how much?

The goal is 20 minutes a day, unless your baby has challenges like flat head or muscular issues and in that case, you'd want to increase the amount of tummy time. Keeping in mind your child's emotional intelligence and supporting that, you can break up the 20 minutes throughout the day. This is one really big positive to starting at 14 days old. While your baby is that young, they are usually very easy going and presents the perfect time to introduce things.
You can incorporate tummy time into so many parts of your day. You want to make sure your child is not hungry because they will be easily agitated, but you also don't want to feed them within 45 minutes prior to doing tummy time to prevent regurgitation or spit up. Also, choose a time that your child is alert so you can spend the time bonding and making eye contact with your baby. Remember, begins don't have great eyesight so beside you're getting within 6-12 inches from your baby's face. They, of course, will know it's you by other things like your voice and your smell.

Safety concerns:

Just as we don't want your child to associate tummy time with coziness and lounging, we don't want babies to fall asleep while doing tummy time. Again, this is a time to associate pairs working on muscles and physical development. Choose a time that your child is alert and content to do tummy time. We want to experience to be pleasant but also stimulating. Sometimes they will get frustrated and this presents an awesome opportunity to support their emotional development.

The Bottom Line:

Tummy time is one of my favorite activities! I hope you can find as much joy in it, as well! 

Tummy time is the act of setting your child on their tummy and allowing them to activate muscles that aren't required when lying on your back. Here's how I like to describe it to new parents: remember in high school PE, that wretched 'superman' move, where you had to hover your toes and your fingertips just an inch or two above the ground. If coach was in a really bad mood, she'd throw in a good ole pulse in there. Wretched. Anyway, those 'superman' muscles aren't necessarily needed when your baby is on their back. Since most newborns sons 99% of their time swaddled up and lying in their back, it's important to off set this time with some tummy time activity.

We recommend to our clients to start at day 14. I know what you're thinking, "Are you crazy? 14 days?!", but yes, two weeks old is the perfect age. This gives your child (and your family unit) some time to adjust to this new life style, but not long enough to already have routines in place that you have to undo to fit in tummy time. Also, often times we see new babes mastering skills earlier than average if we support them from immediately following birth.

Since tummy time requires your baby to be on their tummy, you won't be able to control them staying in this position after they begin to have mobility. Tranquility by HeHe recommend continuing tummy time until your child has mastered rolling, sitting up, and crawling. This usually means around 6 ,moths or so. However, it's never a bad idea to set your child on their tummy to begin play. Instead of setting the. Down on their bum or their feet, trying setting them down on their tummy to encourage them to engage those muscles that they may not focus on each day.

Obviously anytime we put infants face down, there's reason to be extra vigilant. You want to make sure tummy time is done if a safe, firm surface-- one that does NOT conform to your child's face. It important to remember that tummy time is a space for your child to work, not a time of luxury and comfort. This dame train of thought will keep your child safe, too.

Tummy time is something that should be started from the very beginning. If tummy time is associated with fun, you can continue this well past 6 months. Tummy time is essential to activating core muscles needed for milestones like sitting up, rolling over, and crawling. All babies should be getting a minimum of 20 minute per day, in one chunk or broken up throughout the day. Make sure your child is placed on a firm, safe surface and is always being supervised closely by a reliable and alert adult. 

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Digging Deep into all things Vagina with April Davis

Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Hey Tranquility Tribe! This week, we are digging deep into all things down there - yup, vaginas! There’s no one better to guide us through this topic than the vagina aficionado herself, April Davis. April is the mastermind behind The Vagina Blog, an incredible blog and social media presence dedicated to our lady bits. In our society, most of us with vaginas are unfortunately not educated about our own anatomy and are quite frankly scared of poking around down there. As a doula, birth photographer, and birth assistant to a midwife, April has been up close and personal with too many vaginas to count, and she’s excited to share all she’s learned with you!

Caring for your vagina
The vagina is a self-cleaning, independent woman, but what do you do if you’re experiencing some stank down there? April is always waking down the feminine hygiene aisle and taken aback by all the special soaps, perfumes, and deodorants for sale that your vagina really doesn’t need. If you start shoving those things up or around here, you will mess with the natural flora of your vagina - and you really don’t want to mess with that pH! Water is truly the best for keeping your lady bits clean, but if you do want to use a wash, April recommends Good Clean Love’s natural moisturizing wash or even just plain, old school pine tar soap, which April uses for whole body - including her vagina.
When it comes to lube, you should be mindful of the synthetic chemicals that are found in many  products, as the vaginal mucous membrane is super absorbent. Coconut oil works best for April, but she suggests doing your research and figuring out what’s best for you!

Of course, one of the biggest and overwhelming aspects of caring for our vaginas is managing our periods! There is so much out there these days and April goes very in-depth about all kinds of products on the blog, but she emphasizes that everyone is different and what works for her personally may not necessarily work best for others. From sea sponges to menstrual cups to cloth pads, there are so many things out there to try. April’s personal favorite is a menstrual disc, which sits up in the fornix rather than in the canal and is easy to both put in and put out. Hehe and April both love Thinx underwear - and April recommends them for postpartum bleeding too!

The vagina in pregnancy and childbirth
The vagina is the most stretchy part of our bodies, but it’s hard to believe that since we can’t really see it. Take the case of a freezing cold flaccid penis and compare that to a fully erect one. While we can’t get that same visual because the vagina is external, we should still keep in mind that our bodies were biologically made for handling the extreme stretch of childbirth!
The vagina heals itself very well, from minor cuts and scrapes to childbirth. While extreme tears require some extra help, when it comes to 1st and 2nd degree tears the vagina can heal quickly and significantly when you take the time to rest and stay down like you’re supposed to. Tears or not, it’s so important to take good care of your vagina after birth. One of April’s favorite postpartum products is Earth Mama Angel Baby’s perineal spray, which is super soothing on a sore vagina and also promotes healing. Ibuprofen and tumeric are great for inflammation along with ice packs on and off to keep swelling down.

After the initial six week postpartum period, kegels are great for bringing strength back into your vaginal muscles. But if things don’t quite feel like they’ve put themselves back together, you may be suffering from prolapse of one of your pelvic organs. Culturally, we tend to think our bodies are ruined after childbirth and that pain is just a part of post birth life - that’s not okay! Unfortunately, most OBs only check the cervix at the postpartum exam and don’t assess for prolapse, so you need to advocate for yourself in the office if you feel that something is off. 

Postpartum sex
April has had three kids and each postpartum experience was completely different. For her first pregnancy she didn’t even consider the idea of sex before her six weeks appointment and with her second she was back to having sex within two weeks of giving birth. The key to postpartum sex is patience for all parties involved! April is sympathetic to partners supporting women who just had babies and who are eager to get back into things. Remember that you can always do other things to be intimate that don’t necessarily have to be intercourse - after all, orgasms are fantastic for healing!
If you’re interested in keeping up with April and all her vaginal musings, you can find her on Instagram @thevaginablog and of course, at She has a book club to help people on their educational journey when it comes to their lady bits - this month, they’ve been talking about The Guide to Getting it On, which talks about from everything to Barbie’s impact on women’s sexuality to how to give good head. 

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